Saturday, April 18, 2009

Hafiy the 3rd

Shaffik and Mini got another boy, another Hafiy (a second name given to the elder siblings and looks like will be given to this one too - Hafiy the 3rd!) Mini gave birth at about 10.20 this morning at a private hospital in Miri. Baby weighed in at 2.9 kg and both baby and mum are doing ok.

Our fifth grandchild and third grandson. The two boys were overjoyed when told that they now have another brother but Haadieya kept missing the point by refering to the baby as 'my baby sister' several times during conversations. By evening she accepted the fact that the baby is her baby brother and not sister. I guess, in her own way, she was psyching herself to accept a baby brother even though she very much wanted a baby sister.

I sat with her after the evening prayers and talked with her about what she would do when the baby comes home in a few days, that baby will be sleeping with mummy alot and that she will have to give way to baby and so on. Oh! she said, "I can still sleep with mummy and baby and I will help feed baby milk, and help baby sleep - demonstrating with her hands how she will do it" very confidently. Her excitement grew as we continued to talk and she reminded me several times that I should not be loud, putting her forefinger to her lips and whispering, "you must not wake baby up. Baby need to sleep and I will talk to mummy very softly" She rambled on and on and on about baby and I did not detect anymore of that baby sister thing. She has got over it I guess.

Hafiy the 3rd, born today at 10.20am

I browsed through to February 2005 in this blog archive when I posted pictures of Haadieya when she was born, and the pictures look almost the same, especially in the eyes region, but thay do not look identical though!!

MKI Ramblings Unlimited

Sunday, April 12, 2009

Interesting Life Experience

A friend sent this to me......

From a 97 years old doctor:

At the age of 97 years and 4 months, Shigeaki Hinohara is one of the world's longest-serving physicians and educators. Hinohara's magic touch is legendary: Since 1941 he has been healing patients at St. Luke's International Hospital in Tokyo and teaching at St. Luke's College of Nursing. After World War II, he envisioned a world-class hospital and college springing from the ruins of Tokyo; thanks to his pioneering spirit and business savvy, the doctor turned these institutions into the nation's top medical facility and nursing school. Today he serves as chairman of the board of trustees at both organizations. Always willing to try new things, he has published around 150 books since his 75th birthday, including one "Living Long, Living Good" that has sold more than 1.2 million copies. As the founder of the New Elderly Movement, Hinohara encourages others to live a long and happy life, a quest in which no role model is better than the doctor himself.

Doctor Shigeaki Hinohara JUDIT KAWAGUCHIPHOTO:

Energy comes from feeling good, not from eating well or sleeping a lot. We all remember how as children, when we were having fun, we often forgot to eat or sleep. I believe that we can keep that attitude as adults, too. It's best not to tire the body with too many rules such as lunchtime and bedtime.

All people who live long regardless of nationality, race or gender share one thing in common:None are overweight... For breakfast I drink coffee, a glass of milk and some orange juice with a tablespoon of olive oil in it. Olive oil is great for the arteries and keeps my skin healthy. Lunch is milk and a few cookies, or nothing when I am too busy to eat. I never get hungry because I focus on my work.. Dinner is veggies, a bit of fish and rice, and, twice a week, 100 grams of lean meat..

Always plan ahead. My schedule book is already full until 2014, with lectures and my usual hospital work. In 2016 I'll have some fun, though: I plan to attend the Tokyo Olympics!

There is no need to ever retire, but if one must, it should be a lot later than 65. The current retirement age was set at 65 half a century ago, when the average life-expectancy in Japan was 68 years and only 125 Japanese were over 100 years old. Today, Japanese women live to be around 86 and men 80, and we have 36,000 centenarians in our country. In 20 years we will have about 50,000 people over the age of 100...

Share what you know. I give 150 lectures a year, some for 100 elementary-school children, others for 4,500 business people. I usually speak for 60 to 90 minutes, standing, to stay strong.

When a doctor recommends you take a test or have some surgery, ask whether the doctor would suggest that his or her spouse or children go through such a procedure. Contrary to popular belief, doctors can't cure everyone. So why cause unnecessary pain with surgery I think music and animal therapy can help more than most doctors imagine.

To stay healthy, always take the stairs and carry your own stuff. I take two stairs at a time, to get my muscles moving.

My inspiration is Robert Browning's poem "Abt Vogler." My father used to read it to me. It encourages us to make big art, not small scribbles. It says to try to draw a circle so huge that there is no way we can finish it while we are alive. All we see is an arch; the rest is beyond our vision but it is there in the distance.

Pain is mysterious, and having fun is the best way to forget it. If a child has a toothache, and you start playing a game together, he or she immediately forgets the pain. Hospitals must cater to the basic need of patients: We all want to have fun. At St. Luke's we have music and animal therapies, and art classes.

Don't be crazy about amassing material things. Remember: You don't know when your number is up, and you can't take it with you to the next place.

Hospitals must be designed and prepared for major disasters, and they must accept every patient who appears at their doors. We designed St.... Luke's so we can operate anywhere: in the basement, in the corridors, in the chapel. Most people thought I was crazy to prepare for a catastrophe, but on March 20, 1995, I was unfortunately proven right when members of the Aum Shinrikyu religious cult launched a terrorist attack in the Tokyo subway. We accepted 740 victims and in two hours figured out that it was sarin gas that had hit them. Sadly we lost one person, but we saved 739 lives.

Science alone can't cure or help people. Science lumps us all together, but illness is individual. Each person is unique, and diseases are connected to their hearts. To know the illness and help people, we need liberal and visual arts, not just medical ones.

Life is filled with incidents. On March 31, 1970, when I was 59 years old, I boarded the Yodogo, a flight from Tokyo to Fukuoka. It was a beautiful sunny morning, and as Mount Fuji came into sight, the plane was hijacked by the Japanese Communist League-Red Army Faction. I spent the next four days handcuffed to my seat in 40-degree heat. As a doctor, I looked at it all as an experiment and was amazed at how the body slowed down in a crisis.

Find a role model and aim to achieve even more than they could ever do. My father went to the United States in 1900 to study at DukeUniversity in North Carolina. He was a pioneer and one of my heroes. Later I found a few more life guides, and when I am stuck, I ask myself how they would deal with the problem.

It's wonderful to live long. Until one is 60 years old, it is easy to work for one's family and to achieve one's goals. But in our later years, we should strive to contribute to society. Since the age of 65, I have worked as a volunteer. I still put in 18 hours seven days a week and love every minute of it.

Thursday, April 09, 2009

Traffic Woes

The traffic in Bintulu, once a quiet fishing village that has grown into a bustling industrial town, is beginning to show the traits of traffic that, if their flow is not properly planned and managed, will cause daily congestions and unnecessary hold ups that will also cause unnecessary stresses for drivers. To make matters worse, drivers here are still taking the easy way out every opportunity they get, disregarding standard traffic rules and regulations. Most behave as though Bintulu is in the 80’s and 90’s where people just park their cars anywhere they please, make U-turns anywhere possible even if going against traffic. It was ok those days as there was then not much traffic on the road and the roads too were few. In the 80’s there were only two traffic lights, several more were put up in the 90’s and there are now traffic lights everywhere. And yet, drivers sometimes disregard them. On one occasion I was driving slowly behind a row of vehicles on the slow lane of the road when a car, several vehicles ahead of me, simply stop on the flowing lane to allow several passengers to disembark, one passenger even got out of the car on the fast lane side, throwing cautions to the wind!! I was stopped behind the row of cars and I just looked on in disbelief at the unconcerned attitudes of the people ahead of me.
Disciplining drivers will be a tough job for the authorities. One sure way of making them toe the line is to enforce the traffic summons. However, before doing this the road system and design, the parking system, the road surfaces and conditions must be made conducive and friendly to the public. I noticed that newly developed areas and commercial centers are built with a lot of car parking provisions. This is a good start. The parking systems they use are people friendly. You have to pay when parking your car and paying is made easy by using coupons. If you get parking compounds, paying for them is also made easy for the public.
One sad situation, adding to woes of drivers and car owners, are the conditions of roads. There are far too many potholes patchwork that the road surfaces become uneven and are quite dangerous to fast traffic. Making matters worse are the many over laden and overburdened trucks and lorries plying the main roads such that the roads become even more uneven. These lorries blatantly overload and they seem to get away with it all the time. When driving on these roads one can feel the steering wheel going its own direction when going over these uneven surfaces. A slight misjudgment by the driver can lead ones’ car to the side of the road, and the sides of the roads are usually soft earth. There are very few places where the road shoulders are hard and even very few with sufficient sides and shoulders. So, in times of emergencies one has no side table to stop the vehicle on and has no choice but to take a portion of the road to stop the vehicle, causing other traffic to dangerously swerve usually to the middle of the road and then causing disruption to the flow of traffic in the middle of the road. Accidents and mishaps can and do happen at times. This is perhaps the reason why the driver I mentioned earlier stopped on the road to discharge his passengers.
Bintulu is fast becoming a modern town, with modern buildings, shopping malls, hotels and commercial centers that are spread into several pocket areas. It is properly planned but the roads are something else. There is a dire need to upgrade the roads to a higher class road that can withstand excessive pressures of increasing traffic and heavy ones too. Most of all, there is an immediate need for proper enforcement of traffic rules. Stop double parking and haphazard parking especially at the end of school hours and on peak periods. There is at least one school located in all the major roads in Bintulu and end of school hours are just times of traffic chaos at these locations. Something needs to be done to alleviate this daily chaotic situation. If the authorities are thinking of bringing Bintulu and upgrading it to a first world city then all its infrastructure works should be designed to first world standard and more importantly maintenance and administration should also be of first world standards. It will be tough to achieve and much tougher to maintain….. We shall see what happens in the future……

MKI Ramblings Unlimited,
Bintulu, Sarawak

Friday, April 03, 2009

The Twins - can you tell the difference?

We are now in Bintulu. We returned from Wales arriving PeeJay last Sunday. I had a commitment to attend to at my last place of work on Monday. We went down to JayBee, a day trip on Tuesday, and took off for Bintulu on Wednesday and will be in Bintulu for about two weeks. I will have to go back to PeeJay in the middle of the month for another commitment to my former place of work.

We left Tenby, Wales on Friday evening and stayed overnight at Heathrow to catch the morning flight to KL on Saturday 28th March. Fahrul's parents arrived on the flight from KL early on Saturday morning (the same aircraft that we took). So, it was sort of change of shift from maternal grandparents to paternal grandparents for Najla. A few days before we left Tenby Najla kept on asking Tok Mi why Tok Mi wants to go back. "I am very sad," she kept saying, and as the departure day got nearer Najla got more and more attached to her grandma. It will be 'Tok Mi, please help me do this' and 'Tok MI, please help me do that' even for the smallest of things that she used to do herself and for which she had always been proud of declaring, "I did this or that by myself" everytime. Suddenly she was unable to do them and kept asking Tok Mi to help. She even had Tok Mi to tuck her in to sleep at night and read stories for her, when prior to this she had always insisted that her dad do it!!. Hopefully with her paternal grandparents around she will be none the worse with the separation from Tok MI.

On returning to PeeJay, I just had to make a trip to see Mum in JayBee. At the same time I wanted to take the opportunity to see my Aunty, Mum's younger sister by a couple of years, who was taken ill and hospitalised in a coma, some two weeks earlier. She has since recovered and is recuperating. Also, my sister (fourth sibling) had had twin grandchildren, a boy and a girl, from one son recently and it was just as good an opportunity as any other times for us to visit and see the twins. Moreover, my sister and family had recently moved into their new house. So, we killed many birds with one stone that day, heh heh.

We took the Firefly (an MAS subsidiary airline, their commercial tagline being 'the community airline') flight to JayBee, early morning from KL and returned by the evening flight. The weather was good and there were no hiccups in our journey. We spent some time with Mum, my sister (second sibling) and family, joining them for breakfast and stayed a while to chat. They had planned to take Mum for a follow-up medical check in the hospital later in the morning, so it was just good timimg that we went there early in the morning. We were off to see my Aunty by about 11.00am and spent some time with her. She looked frail and sickly, she had just been discharged from hospital a week earlier, and is recuperating well though. Perhaps the drugs she is taking makes her look that way. Hopefully when she has fully recovered she will look better.

From Aunty's place we went straight to my sister's place to see their new house and also the twins. We had lunch of traditional home cooking that is familiar to our family. You can just imagine how I tucked in and savoured the spread of food. I think I overate. I was sleepy soon after!! Anyway, we stayed in their house until it was time for us to leave for the airport, and of course we had time to nap. It was sleep rather than nap..... I can now claim that I have slept in my sister's new house heh heh. The twins were sleeping most of the time when we were there. They are about four months old, cute little babies. We did not hear any sound from any of them while we were there, although both of them responded to our promtings. Both were detained in the hospital for a few weeks after birth as they were then too small to be taken home.

Can you tell which one is the boy and which one the girl?

It was a day well spent, caught up with family things and issues, some of which I need to look into, being the default head honcho!! heh heh. In due time, in due time....

MKI Ramblings Unlimited,
Bintulu, Sarawak